Dramatic Addiction

My name is Denise and I'm addicted to drama.  I'm sure I'm not the only one in that position in life.  There are a multitude of people who thrive on calamitous situations.  These individuals push on from one scenario to the next, shrouding themselves with troubles.  These people feel as they are victims of the fates, and that there lives are destined to be wronged.  Some people have this type of magnetic quality when it comes to tumultuous relationships, whether it be romantic or friendship.  This may have to do with a need for chaos or catastrophic situations as a choice, because it causes some kind of thrill.  This is almost like an addiction.  The person feels this need to have that kind of negative attention.  Narcissism may also play a part in the issue, because said individual always wants someone else to "feel sorry for them."  The arousal from the pandemonium eventually just begins to wear away at the person, and it just seems to become this endless frustrating cycle.  To begin the cessation of this cyclical problem, you have to comprehend the base cause of this addiction.

There has a to be a way to find joy in our lives, rather than pain and suffering.  We are so accustomed to living in such an obstacle ridden world that we don't see an easier way to live.  If we look at an easier lifestyle filled with peace and contentment, we feel apprehension, because we feel like there are strings attached.  The dramatic scenarios, that occur in our lives, have many purposes.  Discontentment causes your body to produce the natural chemical adrenaline, which gives a "high" feeling.  It's a ridiculous version of being an adrenaline junkie without the kind you get from extreme sports.  Many people, who suffer with drama addiction,  seek the comfort of emotional support from others.  Dramatic events solidify their victimization, and the addiction properties are fed through the growing intensity of the problem.  You have to understand that you have a need for this type of emotional feed.  It's like facing any addiction, such as alcoholism or drug addiction.  You have to admit that you have a problem.  This is the first step in the process of your recovery, because you have to be one to face it head on.

There is an underlying need for dramatic situations.  To address this need, you can journal your feelings.  This is an important tool that can help you put those feelings to paper and analyze them.  After you write these feelings over and over again, you begin to see your patterns and have some clarity when it comes to your mistakes.  When you look at your emotions on the pages, and your responses to dramatic situations, you can see what you can do to avoid these problems and choose healthy solutions.  You can choose to not take part in that type of chaotic difficulty.  You can choose to take the peaceful route and enjoy your life.  Every time you write down your feelings, you can see your triggers and learn from them.  I write down my triggers all of the time.  Being addicted to drama doesn't constitute being addicted to relationships filled with domestic abuse or being a criminal, I just simply put myself in situations that were my own undoing.  So I'm learning every day that I have a right to be happy without discord.